What People Are Saying About Rusty's House

When you come to the actual realization that your child is truly an “addict” there is such an emotional rush that surrounds you, smothers you; you’re unable to breathe. You can no longer be in denial, but where do you turn for the real help that your child and your family requires. You have sought help from the high school, talked with numerous counselors, visited different medical facilities, and other type of organizations. While all are agreement that there is a definite problem they are only able to scratch the surface. My daughter had everything going for her; she was attractive, well-liked, active in various sports and activities, but lacking in self-confidence. Before we realized it she was getting deeper and deeper into drugs. Accidentally, I came across a “Rusty’s House” flyer in a book and was acquainted with the Marvin’s. That call to Rick Marvin I feel has saved all of our lives. We attended our first meeting. The resources that Rick and Amy were able to provide were immense. Rick conducts the meetings with the teens. He is able to talk with them; he is honest and tells them how it is, yet supportive. The parent meetings guided by Amy are very educational. Parents share their fears, frustrations, failures, along with successes. Rusty’s House is able to provide needed interventions. The thing that amazes us the most is that Rusty’s House never forgets about “you”, they keep in touch, provide you with new information and ask if and how they can help. It has been an up and down trip, she is now in her 2nd rehab facility and we are very hopeful. The support we have received through Rusty’s House has kept us strong and positive towards the future.

Thank you, KH & Family

Hi my name is Noah and I am an 18 year old oxycontin addict and alcoholic. I am six months sober and it has been a real struggle to get clean. I come from divorced parents and I have one sister. The disease of alcoholism and addiction runs in my family. My grandfather, uncle, cousin are alcoholics. While I was growing up my parents tried very hard to tell me I need to be very careful because of our family history of addiction. I never listened and thought that would not happen to me. I was different.

Before I even started to use I had very addictive behaviors and thought that God had abandon me. I felt that God always made it so I would fail and always put someone better than me in my life to surpass me. When I was 14 years old I had my first drink. I got drunk and blacked out all in the same night. And that pretty much describes the beginning of my addiction. I just wanted more, more and more. I fell in love with how alcohol made me feel. From there I tried weed and pills. And when I was 15 going into my sophomore year of high school I started to hang out with a lot of older kids because I was on the varsity soccer team and was trying to fit in. I will never forget how I started to use oxycontin. One of the older kids on my team one day gave me this list of pills and told me when I go to my grandfathers house to look for them in the medicine cabinet. Low and behold the next time I went to my grandfathers house I searched and I found some small yellow 40 mg pills. They turned out to be oxycontin.

I took ten of them out of the bottle having no Idea what I was getting myself into. So I brought them back to my buddy and he got real excited. We went back to my house and he showed me how to take the coating off and crush them up and the whole works. And I immediately fell in love with everything about it the feeling, the taste and the process. From that point on it progressed. I said I would only do it once a week. I ended up doing a lot more then that. I started doing all the things I said I would never do. As time went on, I did them all. Including using a needle to get high which I swore I would never do. After that I started selling oxy’s. That only lasted for about four months because I quickly became my best customer. All throughout my junior year I used heavily and then the summer of my junior year my son Kaden was born and I some how stopped using. But I would still drink a couple times a week. I really just stopped because of my son and some of my friends got so bad they had to go to rehab. My last run started November 20, 2006 I was drinking with a couple of my buddies and I just was not satisfied with how I felt I wanted to feel better so my buddy and I went and got some oxycontin. I did not stop until July 9th, 2007. This is when my addiction got really bad. I could never get enough oxycontin. I always wanted more. I would do it all throughout the day so I would not have to deal with what was going on in my life. During this time is when I started stealing alot and using needles. I would leave my house for days and not talk to my family. I was not aloud to see my son anymore. I got a DWI. I lost many of my good friends. I got caught stealing and writing fake checks and I started to think about suicide a lot and even tried to overdose and kill myself. My life was out of control.

On July 10th 2007 I decided I wanted to stop. So I pretty much locked myself at home. It was hell. I had bad withdraws. I had diarrhea, vomiting, cold sweats. I could not sleep and the worst headache ever. I wanted to die. I had my mom kind of help me but I thought I could stop on my own. Like I had before. Which obviously didn’t work so well. So on July 11th 2007 was a day that would change the rest of my life forever. I woke up and came down stairs and there was my whole family, a few of my friends and Rick Marvin. It was an intervention for me and probably one of the most emotional hours I have ever had in my life. So I decided to go to treatment. Rick was an Interventionist from a program I attended briefly called Rusty’s House. I hated Rick at that time. He flew with me to treatment facility called Treatment Solutions of South Florida in Ft. Lauderdale. On the plain ride down we started talking and I started to like him a little bit.

I did a medical detox for 5 days then 89 days in treatment and it was the best experience I have ever had. The first 20 to 30 days I still did not believe I was an addict and really planned on getting high when I got out of treatment. When I came to terms with the fact I was truly a drug addict, my life completely turned around. While I was there I got a lot of knowledge about myself and the drugs I was taking. I learned more about me and life in that short time than I had learned in my previous 17 years on this earth. There is no doubt treatment saved my life. I completed treatment and went to a halfway house and lived there from October 5th until November 29th. While I lived in the sober house I got a job and it really showed me how to incorporate my clean and sober program in my everyday life. I was ready to come home to Toledo. I came home for a few different reasons. I had court to deal with, my son lives here, and I missed it a lot. I moved home at the end of December and went to a meeting the first hour I was home. I found myself a sponsor the next day and ever since we have been working through the steps. My life today is better than I ever thought it could be. I was not planning on living this long and if I did not get the help when I did I know I would be dead. I owe a lot to Rick Marvin and Rusty’s House. They have done so much for me in helping me to find this new way of life. I am now very involved with Rusty’s House today and am trying to help the young people that are in the addiction I was in seven months ago. Giving back to them what was so freely given to me helps me to stay clean and sober one day at a time. I love my family, my son and my new life. God’s will, not mine.

Dear Rick and Amy,

I want to thank you for all you have done for me and my family during our search for help for my son and getting him on the road to recovery. I would like to tell my story so that others in a similar position will know that they are not alone and that there is help out there.

When the suspicions about my son using drugs surfaced, my immediate thought was, “not my son!” I had him drug tested on three occasions – once at home with an over the counter test and twice in laboratories. All three tests were negative and, of course, he denied any drug use. Once money started disappearing from my purse, his sister’s piggy bank, and my rainy day fund, I knew there was a serious problem he was hiding. I had no idea where to even turn. I didn’t know anyone personally who had gone through a situation like this and felt at a loss about what to do. My daughter, who had been a friend of Rusty’s, told me she had just seen a tribute to him on the Internet – and a light bulb when off. I knew then that I needed to contact Rusty’s House. In my initial conversations with Rick, he confirmed my worst fear that my son could really be an addict. I talked my son into attending a meeting at Rusty’s House and I took the opportunity to attend the parents’ meeting.

After that meeting, Rick and I talked several times so I could collect all the information I needed on our options to get him the help he needed. Through these conversations, it became apparent that the best place to get him help was in an in-patient detox and rehab center. Rick, my son’s dad, and I talked about different facilities and agreed on Treatment Solutions of South Florida. It was very difficult for me to make the decision to send my baby so far away, but I knew that he had to be far from the temptations and triggers he faced here. Once again, Rick met with us and we decided that an intervention would be the best way to get him the help he needed. Rick had my daughter, my son’s father and me prepare two letters; the first a letter of love in which we told him how we felt and asked him to enter treatment. The second letter was one of consequences. It outlined what would happen if he chose not to enter treatment. It was a very difficult letter to write and one that I hoped I would not have to share with him. Rick contacted some others that knew my son – two young men who were recovering addicts and one non-using friend. They too prepared letters for him.

We had airline tickets ready for Rick and my son to leave immediately if he accepted treatment. We decided that it would be best for Rick to take him down instead on one of the family. We had every confidence in Rick. If there were any problems along the way or if my son changed his mind, he would be the best person to handle it. Fortunately for all of us, my son decided to take our gift of life and enter the treatment facility. This was July 10, 2007. My son has now been clean for almost nine months.

I believe Rick, Amy and Rusty’s House are a key part of my son being alive today. Sending him to a facility so far away was difficult and expensive; however the facility worked with us on payment because it was not covered by our insurance. I looked at the cost in comparison to what my son’s life was worth. Was his life worth the cost of treatment or did I want to gamble that he’d get clean and stay clean in Toledo? I knew there is only one answer.

Rick handled the entire process in a professional manner – tough when he needed to be; but sensitive to our concerns. Amy holds the weekly parent/family meetings. I feel a real sense of community and support at these meeting. It is comforting to meet parents whose children have been clean for months and even years. It’s important to me to get updates on those young people who are currently in treatment. Just as important as getting support, I feel I can give support to the parents who are at the point I was nine months ago.

I keep Rick and Amy in my prayers. They have channeled the grief of their tragedy into a great asset for our community. I would strongly recommend Rusty’s House to any family who is concerned about their son or daughter’s involvement with drugs and/or alcohol. I thank the Lord for them and the other members of the Rusty’s House Community.

Sincerely,
Vicki B.

Rick,
Hello, I am the pastoral services director at Notre Dame Academy and I want to thank you for sharing your story with the NDA girls. You made a difference. I want you to know that you touched the lives of so many of our girls. They remember Rusty. I pray that the ones that were sitting there in trouble come to you or to someone. I know we have girls that are on destructive paths here at NDA.

Asking Katie to share her story was ingenious. It is difficult for a grad to come back and share her story, but especially here where everything is held to such high standards. She made a difference too.

Please continue to share your story and talk to young people and parents. We have had many speakers here at NDA but you were by far the best. You talked their language. You told YOUR story. You talked about your son who was close to their age. You did all the right "stuff." You gave them good direction. You talked to them with respect. The list could go on. Again I say please continue to reach out to young people and parents. We need more people like yourself and your "staff" to make a difference in this world.
May God Bless You!
Sandy DesJardins

I wanted to take this time to thank Rustys House for all that you have done for my son and our family. People dont know until you live thru it but it affects all of us not just the person doing the drugs.I had reached a dead end trying to get help for my son with the system.I have found that if you dont have money nobody listens.Rustys House helped guide us to outside help that i truley believe helped save my sons life.He is on the right path now .All of our prayers are finally being heard and for the fist time in a long time i feel that my son has a chance to survive these horrible drugs.Thank you Rick for all that you have done for my family and know if we can ever do anything to help you we are here for you.
-Linda S.

When you come to the actual realization that your child is truly an "addict" there is such an emotional rush that surrounds you, smothers you; you're unable to breathe. You can no longer be in denial, but where do you turn for the real help that your child and your family requires. You have sought help from the high school, talked with numerous counselors, visited different medical facilities, and other type of organizations. While all are agreement that there is a definite problem they are only able to scratch the surface.

My daughter had everything going for her; she was attractive, well-liked, active in various sports and activities, but lacking in self-confidence. Before we realized it she was getting deeper and deeper into drugs. Accidentally, I came across a "Rusty's House" flyer in a book and was acquainted with the Marvin's. That call to Rick Marvin I feel has saved all of our lives. We attended our first meeting. The resources that Rick and Amy were able to provide were immense.

Rick conducts the meetings with the teens. He is able to talk with them; he is honest and tells them how it is, yet supportive. The parent meetings guided by Amy are very educational. Parents share their fears, frustrations, failures, along with successes. Rusty's House is able to provide needed interventions. The thing that amazes us the most is that Rusty's House never forgets about "you", they keep in touch, provide you with new information and ask if and how they can help. It has been an up and down trip, she is now in her 2nd rehab facility and we are very hopeful. The support we have received through Rusty's House has kept us strong and positive towards the future.
Thank you, KH & Family

To Whom It May Concern:
I wanted to share my testimonial with other parents that are dealing with a child that has abused drugs or is addicted to drugs. One year ago, I discovered that my daughter had been abusing drugs for 18 months with her boyfriend. Although my daughter made a bad choice, her boyfriend paved the path, as he had been an addict for years. He introduced her to a very unforgiving substance that quickly took over her life. Little did I know, the drug abuse began when my daughter had just graduated from high school. This still seems impossible to believe. In high school, my daughter was a varsity basketball player at a private catholic school. She won the MVP award as a freshman. She was always on the honor roll and was an all academic athelete her senior year. She was awarded a college scholarship to play basketball at a division III school, but chose to decline it. Instead, she chose a local university and stopped playing basketball. In retrospect, I believe my daughter chose to attend a local school and work to financially support her unemployed drug addict boyfriend and his habit. It wasn't until my daughter and her boyfriend began stealing from our family, that I realized my daughter had a problem.

One year ago in 2006, my daughter was admitted to the hospital for 48 hours for detoxification of the drugs. She was evaluated and treated by a psychiatrist. Unfortunately, the psychiatrist prescribed three medications for her. As a nurse, I did not feel comfortable replacing drugs with drugs. However, my nursing background was not in psychiatry or drug addiction, so I decided to leave it to the professionals. That was a mistake. As nurses, we are taught to go with our gut. My daughter was discharged and continued in partial inpatient therapy to learn how to cope without the drugs and without the drug addict boyfriend. The partial inpatient therapy was Monday through Friday from 8:00 am to 4:00 pm. When partial inpatient was finished, my daughter started outpatient therapy two nights per week for several weeks. I took a leave of absence from my job to care for my daughter and transport her to doctor's appointments and therapy. Obviously, all of this was not enough, as my daughter relapsed four months later. I guess she just was not ready to quit using drugs. Unfortunately, I did not learn of her relapse until four months after it began. Believe it or not, she even managed to beat three drugs tests in several months. She was still working and appeared to be fulfilling her responsibilities. I now realize that she was a functioning addict.

It was only until she had stolen my credit card, that I knew she was in trouble again. Drug addicts are good at lying, manipulating and beating the system, so I have learned. They will do anything to support their drug habit, even if it means stealing and hurting their families and friends or worse. This time, I was looking for a different treatment option for my daughter. I learned of Rick Marvin at Rusty's House through a friend. My friend has a younger child with a drug addiction. Rick helped her locate an out of town facility for her daughter. I knew my friend's daughter was doing well, working a part time job and thinking of attending college. I called Rick and asked for his help with my daughter. Rick showed up within 24 hours to talk with my daughter and I. He suggested a facility out of town. Rick's advice was to move quickly while my daughter really wanted to get help. He also advised to get her far away from the influences of her hometown. Especially because, most people my daughter's age are drinking.

Two days later, with Rick's intervention, my daughter was admitted to an out of town Twelve Step facility. With Rick's assistance, I was able to find something affordable. Finally, she was able to get the help she needed without replacing drugs with drugs. I was very impressed with Rusty's House and Rick Marvin's support through this situation. My daughter is currently living in an out of town half way house with 11 other women her age. She is learning responsibility and living life without drugs. She is residing in a recovery environment where each girl helps one another to stay sober every day. She attends meetings daily and works a full time job. She even has a better relationship with God. I am so grateful to Rick and his resources. I am so proud of my daughter. I thank God every day for leading us to Rusty's House.
Written from a Parent of a Child with a drug addiction

LIFE WITH OXYCONTIN

Discovering that our loved one has a powerful addiction to poly- substances (mainly oxycontin which later lead to heroine) opened our minds to a world of unknown insanity! We knew our loved one was smoking marijuana and experimenting with other substances including, but not limited prescription medications, however, we overlooked the situation, thinking, “oh he is at that age where he is experimenting with drugs. He’ll grow out of it.  Then, at the age of twenty, we were still reaching out, and trying to help, but he always managed to fall through the cracks.
            As our loved one kept using drugs, we learned that he had a problem, and there had to be help out there somewhere. We had no idea what to do, or where to turn. Thinking back we remember hearing about Rusty’s House on the news. Although, at the time we had a hard time finding the support group. Meanwhile, our loved one kept using, lying, stealing, cheating, getting in trouble with the law, going through court ordered rehabs, and even prison.  Our lives turned into a whirlwind! After our loved one was released from prison at the age of twenty, he was immediately back to the races. Using drugs all day, everyday.
            After spending hours at the library and searching on line for Rusty’s House, we finally received a contact number! We actually found Rick Marvin’s phone number through our loved ones friend’s father. We were some what relieved. When we built up the courage to call Rick, the majority of our family gathered for support, and called him. Rick listened, was very sympathetic, encouraging, thoughtful, educational, and most of all honest! He encouraged us to try to get our loved one to a meeting at Rusty’s House. Our loved one refused. However, we went to the meeting. Before the meeting, Rick personal introduced himself while asking if our loved one had made it there as well. Of course, our answer was “no”, but we had more bad news. Rick was concerned for our loved ones’ well being as well as ours, and asked if we were able to meet with him after the meeting.
            During the meeting, we were able to share our traumatic situation at our discretion. Even though we were nervous, upset, angry, and on an emotional roller coaster, we managed to fight through the tears and pain, and we shared our story. Everyone in the meeting was non- judgmental, understanding, and very attentive. Once we shared our “story”, we felt a little more comfortable due to the fact that we actually found a common ground, and we knew we weren’t the only family out there with this problem.
            After the meeting, we met with Rick as we agreed. Knowing that our loved one was in trouble with the law again, Rick was curious of his court date. We told him, and to our surprise, Rick willingly offered to meet with him at the court house to present rehabilitation to him. Rick fulfilled this proposal, and immediately called us after wards to inform us of our loved one’s response. Our loved one declined, but Rick took it a step further, and gave our loved one his card with his name and number on it, in case he were to change his mind. Before Rick hung up the phone, he offered his help some more, and encouraged us to keep going to the meetings for support and reinforcements.
            A few days later, our loved one managed to cause him as well as us more distress. As our loved one reached to us for help, we frantically called Rick for more advice on what to do. Rick advised us to make a deal with him. The deal was, if our loved one went to Rusty’s House with us, we would help. Our loved one agreed, miserably withdrew from dugs, and attended a few meetings. There for Rick was able to develop more of a rapport with our loved one, and was able to distinguish the degree of help he needed. Even though Rick already could not say enough positive things about our loved one, and all of the tremendous support he gave him, our loved one quit going to Rusty’s House. Only three weeks later, we regret to find out that our loved one was using heroine intravenously. We decided that we were “throwing in the towel”. We were livid, hurt, and crushed!!! That Wednesday we decided that we were going to go to Rusty’s House for the last time, return some books we borrowed, and we were not going to stay for the meeting. We also wanted to inform Rick of our loved one using I.V. heroine, and if he were to call for help, to please help him, because we were DONE! We were wiping our hands clean!!! However, when we arrived to Rusty’s House that Wednesday, we shared our “story” with Rick, and told him “we are done”! Rick asked if we were able to meet after the meeting, and someway, somehow, we stayed for the meeting. Following the meeting, Rick talked with us, and insisted on an intervention. Once again, we agreed. This is due to the fact that everything else the Rick advised, and what we learned in the meetings was true. Maybe on a different time line, but true. We proceeded home, and approximately a half an hour later, Rick called. He asked if a couple members of our family would propose the idea of rehab to out loved one the next day. WE did, and our loved one agreed! As soon as we heard our loved ones answer, we called Rick, Rick called the rehab center, the rehab center talked with us, and advised us to get our loved one on a plane asap. We made the arrangements, and our loved one was off to another state within four hours. Now, our loved one is living out of state, is alive, working healthy, and is in recovery! All thanks to Rick, and his resources!!! There is no possible way that we could have done this without Rick, Amy and Rusty’s House!
            We are very thankful that Rick is always willing to reach out to our loved one, as well as the rest of the family with very few questions asked! Furthermore, Rick, Amy, and Rusty’s House gave us the strength to cope with the family disease of addiction. They also gave us the ability to gain knowledge on the disease of addiction, and realize that there are others out there in this world with the same battle. They also aided us in focusing on not forgetting the good values in our loved one! Overall, if it wasn’t for Rick, Amy, and Rusty’s House, our loved one would not be with us today, because an addicts “bottom” is DEATH! They saved his life! Finally, we would like to thank-you from our heart to yours for all of your care, hard work, and dedication! Thank-you Rick, Amy and Rusty’s House!!!

Signed with love,

            Anonymous